Intervention helps the family…
When a family member is addicted to drugs, alcohol or other unhealthy compulsive behaviors the effects on the family are often severe. It is not just the addicted person that suffers, the whole family suffers. But you are not alone, there is help available to you right now. You and other family members and friends can make a difference in your loved one’s life and help them recover by arranging for a family intervention. A family intervention facilitated by a trained expert, will help your loved one recognize their need for help. When a person suffers from addiction to alcohol, drugs, eating disorders or other unhealthy compulsive behaviors it controls their life. They are unable to see how it affects their lives and the lives of those they care about. A professional family intervention is an opportunity to interrupt the dangerous patterns of behavior and end the cycle of addiction by addressing the cause directly and stopping all efforts to merely treat the symptoms. The addict is shown in a loving and caring way that the problem they have is one that they cannot handle on their own, they need professional help, help that is readily available from a professional rehabilitation program. The family that had been helping by treating the symptoms is now ready through the process of family intervention to help in a truly effective manner by providing them with the support they need to take the crucial step towards recovery.
Intervention helps the addict…
When someone you know is suffering from alcohol abuse, drug abuse, eating disorders or other addictions, it is very difficult to know how to help. Our first instincts are to help, and often we help by treating the symptoms of the addictions. An addiction intervention can help the addict get into a professional rehabilitation program before the symptoms spiral out of control. The symptoms of addiction are many.
Addicts are unable to fulfill their responsibilities at work, at school or in the home. Those who care about the addict and who see what is happening try to pick up the slack. They make excuses for the addict. They help out with homework, babysitting, housework. They try to alleviate the visible sources of stress. This action may help temporarily but is not a permanent solution by any means. It takes pressure off of the addict and places more stress on those trying to help. However the drinking or drug use continues, the addiction gets worse and the addict becomes even more incapable of handling their responsibilities. An addiction intervention can help by using these situations to steer the addict into a professional rehabilitation program, before the consequences become even more damaging.
Addicts continue to drink or use drugs or in behave in compulsive ways even when it is dangerous. Families see it, friends see it, but the addict is somehow blind to the dangers. Despite all the help the addict is receiving, things get worse. What we thought would help alleviate stress and take away the need to continue compulsive behaviors, or using alcohol or drugs, has merely given the addict more time to engage in dangerous behavioral patterns. An addiction intervention will help stop the patterns and get the addict into a professional rehabilitation program.
The addict will experience a greater need to engage in compulsive behaviors, or to use more drugs or alcohol to achieve the desired affect. What used to be enough is no longer enough. This is a nightmare for the addict and those who care about them. The addict is led by an internal need for more and more. It becomes a matter of survival. The efforts to take away pressure has not achieved anything. Lending money, taking the kids for weeks at a time, doing work for the addict so they don’t lose their job has become a normal way of life. When someone calls a professional addiction interventionist, they will soon learn that both they and the addict can break free from this cycle.
Addicts try but fail to stop the drinking, drug use or compulsive behaviors. Their intentions are honorable. There is a part of them that truly wants to stop but they are unable. Friends and family are encouraged by the attempts and discouraged by the failures. This cycle can continue for months and even years until sooner or later the addict gives up entirely. When those who care about the addict see an attempt to quit and call a professional addiction interventionist, they can reach out to the addict at the point in that cycle where they are most likely to receive help.
Addicts continue to engage in compulsive behaviors or use drugs and alcohol even though they know the danger. This of course causes incredible stress. The people who care about them are scared, but the addict doesn’t seem to be. It’s almost as if they’ve embraced their addiction and will continue to use in spite of the life threatening consequences. An addiction intervention is now a matter of saving the persons life. It may be the only thing left that can get them into a life saving rehabilitation program.
Treatment placement- many families are referred to us by professional treatment or rehabilitation centers that have already helped check insurance coverage, done evaluations, and found available detox programs if needed. However some families call us first. In those cases we can help to find a suitable rehabilitation or treatment program and help facilitate the process by putting you in touch with the right people right away.
Assembling the team- We know that not everyone is in agreement right away. Sometimes half the family wants to do something and the other half wants to wait. We often make many calls to different family members to walk them through the process of intervention and show them now is the time to act.
Training- As soon as we arrive we get right to work. Before beginning the addiction intervention, a trained professional interventionist will teach the intervention team (a group of family, friends, co-workers, etc.) everything they need to know, do and say to make the intervention successful. We meet with the team at a local church, an office board room, a hotel conference room or in someone’s living room and begin our training. This is where all questions are answered, all details are discussed, all possible excuses are examined, and letters of concern are written. The time allotted for training varies according to the circumstances. We take as long as we need to make sure everyone is prepared.
Intervention- Once the team is trained and the letters are written it’s time for the intervention. Typically we do the intervention the morning after the training but circumstances sometimes change our schedule. The professional interventionist or a team member invites the person to a meeting or else we go to wherever they are. The professional interventionist facilitates all the details of getting the team into the presence of the loved one, makes the initial introductions, handles the initial reactions of the addicted one, and invites them to listen to what the concerned team members have to say. The professional interventionist then facilitates the rest of the meeting. Team members read their letters, an invitation to receive help is given, excuses are addressed and eventually 90% of the time the person finally accepts help. Once they say yes- we are off to treatment. This process usually lasts a few hours, sometimes longer. We will stay as long as we need to. Be prepared for a “no”. It is very uncommon for someone suffering from addiction, eating disorders, or other compulsive to immediately accept help after the invitation is given. We are prepared to hear “no”, “I can’t”, “I don’t need help” or even “you can’t make me go”. Don’t panic, this is normal. The professional interventionist is prepared to hear these responses and has also prepared the team how to respond when these responses are given. 90% of the people we do interventions for go to a professional rehabilitation program the same day we do the intervention. But hardly anyone says yes right away.
Transport- The goal of any intervention is to help the person suffering from addiction or unhealthy compulsive behaviors to realize their need for professional help and to safely transport them to a professional rehabilitation treatment program. That program may be in the same town or perhaps in a different state. Sometimes it is best for the person to get away from their current surroundings and go someplace where the temptations, influences from drug using friends, or reminders of behavioral patterns are absent. Regardless of where they go, the professional interventionist will transport them accompanied sometimes by another friend or family member. We are with them until they sign themselves into the the rehabilitation treatment program.
Follow up- our professional relationship with the intervention team is ongoing. The professional interventionist is a part of the intervention team and as such is committed to the ongoing recovery of the person. We are always available for questions and consultations as long as the team needs us.
Who should be involved?
We can do an intervention with any number of people in the team. People often wonder who is appropriate to have involved as a team member. Our suggestion is anyone who knows the person, cares about the person, is concerned and committed to being a part of their recovery.
If someone you care about is suffering from addictions, eating disorders, or other compulsive behaviors, and you can no longer stand by, watching them destroy their lives and the lives of those around them, then take the first step for them and call.
Keith Hankinson 678-431-3138 firstname.lastname@example.org
Shane Hankinson 770-906-3303
is a family company that has over 35 years of experience helping people find solutions to their problems with alcoholism, drug addiction, eating disorders, mental illness, gambling addictions and other family crisis. If you need help, call us and if we can’t help we’ll put you in touch with the people who can.
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